‘Tis better to have loved and lost…than never to have loved at all.

I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

One of the most well known and beautiful quotes of all time appears in Alfred Tennyson’s “In Memoriam A.H.H.” and the subject of the poem was Tennyson’s best friend Arthur Henry Hallam (the “A.H.H.” in the title).

I’ve asked myself how do I blog about what it feels like to live life after losing a child? Are there words to describe that emptiness? Can you put those emotions into words that string together to make a sentence, a paragraph…much less a blog post? I think maybe in time you can because I read something that perfectly described it, words that a mom wrote to describe the pain of living without one of her children. I can’t find the words right now because there are days I still walk in the door and expect you to be here and the realization that you’re gone literally takes my breath away to the point it’s paralyzing. So for now I remind myself that the love was worth the loss. 
I hold it true, whate’er befall; I feel it when I sorrow most; ‘Tis better to have loved and lost. Than never to have loved at all.

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